Who needs a man when you have mala beads that channel self-love? Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and as everyone else is getting excited to pay 5 times the normal price for a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolate, you’re feeling a little down in the dumps. Perhaps you’re single or maybe you’ve been let down on this “special day” before. Either way, it’s time to dump the bad vibes - ain’t nobody got time for dat – and fall in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day.
Rule no. 1 to self-love is to remind yourself that you’re worth it. Single? You’re too good for the people you’ve met. Recently changed your Facebook status to complicated? You’re good enough to know when something isn’t right.
Every day, tell yourself, “I am enough” anytime you feel like you are not. Yes, even on Valentine’s Day when you’re feeling down in the dumps. You are enough to not settle for something that isn’t right for you.
The next rule to self-love is to set your standards and stay true to them. When you find yourself single for longer than anticipated or at the same job or in the same position for longer than you ever imagined, it’s easy to start second guessing your standards. Okay, well maybe I’m asking for too much or maybe I’m not worthy of that.
Remember the first rule - you’re good enough and stay true to your standards. Lowering your standards for the wrong reasons will almost always lead to unhappiness at the end of the day. So, stay true to your standards now. Things might not happen as quickly as you please but you’re setting yourself up for a genuine, happy and healthy life moving forward. It’s crucial that you love yourself enough to never sacrifice what you really want.
The third rule to falling in love with yourself is to mind your own mind, business and body. We love this saying because there’s nothing worse than being so overly invested in someone else’s mind, business and body that it negatively affects your life, perception and mindfulness. So, stop comparing your body to the models on the runways, refrain from letting other people’s opinion confuse your own and avoid being too involved in other people’s business.
Mind your mind, business and body and the rest follows en suite.
Everyone faces challenges, often times, on a regular basis. You certainly aren’t alone in this aspect. However, the difference between someone who constantly finds themselves climbing the same hurdles and someone jumping over them is the goals they set to overcome them.
Don’t get caught up in the “When it rains, it pours” theory and instead, set some goals to knock over any hurdles that will inevitably present themselves throughout this journey called life.
Hands down, one of our favourite tips for falling in love with yourself is to work towards being the best version of you. No, not working towards looking like that supermodel or meditating because that person does. Instead, do it for you. Discover the things you wish were better or different about yourself and work towards improving them. Sick of being stressed out? Make it a goal to meditate with mala beads. Want to be healthier? Join a power yoga class. Want to eat better? Join a cooking class! There are so many fun – and healthy ways to work on self-improvement.
This self-love tip goes hand-in-hand with the prior because in order to work towards self-improvement, you have to take responsibility for the things that are within your control. Pointing the finger and making excuses for things isn’t healthy. Tired of your friend spreading gossip about you? Distance yourself. Experiencing an increase in anxiety? Meditate. Not happy with how you feel about yourself? Go to the gym.
Now, don’t get us wrong – it’s much easier to blame other people and things when negativity presents itself but that is only going to keep you in a toxic environment that leads to unhealthiness and unhappiness.
Choosing to take responsibility for the things you want and don’t want in life will be a challenge in itself, but if you follow the previous step, you’ll know exactly what you need to do to prevail.
I just graduated university after years of studying. The last thing I want to do is learn more. We hear you but we aren’t talking about grabbing some notebooks and reading up on calculus for fun. Instead, we’re talking about making it a goal to never limit your learning capabilities. The world is constantly changing and it’s important to ensure your knowledge follows en suite.
Read some books on aromatherapy, educate yourself on the benefits of meditation and mala beads, grab some self-help guides and keep learning. As the saying goes, if you don’t use it you lose it. So, use it, ladies!
It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in a cycle of what you can’t do. I can’t do that yoga pose. I can’t meditate for that long. I can’t remain calm when [insert situation]. We all have strengths and weaknesses. However, we often get caught up in our weaknesses so much that we completely forget about all the wonderful passions and talents we have just waiting for us to explore.
So, try new things. Discover what you’re good at and what you have a passion for. You don’t even have to be good at whatever it is you’re passionate about. It’s just important that you take time to cater and fulfill those needs.
Now, practice these self-love tips each day with some 108 mala beads. Have your intention imprinted in your mind; envision exactly what you want; breathe it; live it and it shall come.